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The Hardest Thing You’ll Ever Do
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By Chantelle Foster


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When I became a mom for the first time on August 2, 1996, my doctor, Susan Chambers, said something profound to me. I had just survived a difficult delivery with John Mark, when I looked up at Dr. Chambers and said, “That was the hardest thing I’ve ever done!” She replied, “No, the hardest thing you’ll ever do is raising this child!” Her profoundly wise statement has stuck with me these past 20 years.


I recently reminded her of this statement and we both had a good laugh! She spoke that truth to me as she was pregnant with child number 3 and just days away from her own delivery. There is something magical about pregnancy that just laser focuses you when it comes to speaking truth. I have appreciated her candor as her words became truth before my eyes. Being a mom is, by far, the hardest thing I’ve ever done.


Each human we bring into this world is so different. This makes the manual for parenting hard to write! There is no “one way” to do it. Each child’s needs and personality have a huge effect on how you handle any given situation. I was frustrated by this fact as a young mom. I’d read all the “best” books on childbirth and parenting. Neither went according to the books. Sure, some milestones were right on target but the daily ins and outs of parenting were best learned by on-the-job training. I made mistakes and had successes. But, many times, I just wanted someone to give me a prescription to follow so things would work as I’d hoped.


I now serve as a mentor mom for our Acts 2 UMC MOPS (Mother’s of Preschoolers) group. I’ve noticed that many of our moms want that same prescription. My heart aches for them as they ask their questions. These days, my answers seem the same. I often give one of four standard answers! They are: 1) each kiddo is different, 2) there is no “one way” or “right way” to do it, 3) give it time and things will get better, or 4) you are probably going to need some good counseling to get through this.


As I journey into the unknown territory of launching my youngest, Noah, into the world, I marvel at the fact that parenting almost-adults is so very difficult. I find myself looking for someone to give me that nugget of gold that will make everything work according to my plan. I know this isn’t realistic!


Parenting doesn’t get easier as our children age. The struggles are just different. As a person of deep faith, I know that I am not in this alone. Right now, moments before my baby graduates from high school, I am clinging to my faith in God to bring me into this new season of life with joy. I know God is for my good and my children’s good and for yours as well. I thank God for the great cloud of witnesses that have blazed this trail before me. I thank God for those of you who will hold my hand as I take these next steps in being a mom. And, I thank God for having a plan that’s so much better than mine!


Jeremiah 29:11 (The Message)

“I know what I am doing. I have it all planned out - plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.”


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